I hate, hate, hate, the “friends with benefits” and the “hook-up” mentality that has invaded our culture. I am grateful that I don’t have to deal with the pressures that young people have today because they are truly missing out on the beauty and power of intimacy–emotional, spiritual, and physical–that comes from a committed relationship. When I used to teach human development, my 18-year-old students couldn’t wrap their heads around the fact that “old married couples” (e.g., their parents) would want “hot sex” just like young people do. They were aghast when we would start exploring late adulthood sexuality because it was bad enough when they were picturing their parents but now I was telling them that their grandparents enjoyed getting frisky, too! Movies only show “cougars” not somebody’s “nana” seeking out ways to get their physical needs met!
Anyway, I found this surprisingly frank, for 1958, educational film about how much “affection” a young couple should show each other while still in high school. I appreciate that the film doesn’t tell students what they should or shouldn’t do but rather encourages students to slow down–not let hormones take over–so that they can make choices that are right for them and avoid situations they may regret nine months later.
One note: The actors look much older than high school so it is a bit difficult to believe they would be grappling with the issue of “how far is too far.” But I do like how they seem to show real affection for each other.
How Much Affection (1958)