In love the paradox occurs that two things become one and yet remain two. ~ Erich Fromm
The Mister and I have been together since 1980. It doesn’t feel like that long!
Like most couples, we’ve had our ups and downs but we hung in there, grew up together, and figured out how to make it work.
The change for me happened when I stopped expecting him to be my source of happiness and I started recognizing all of the “non-romantic” ways that he shows me he loves me.
And when I stopped expecting him to be my source of happiness, guess what? My life with him became much more fulfilling and happier! As I found happiness within myself, I was no longer afraid of being disappointed or hurt when he didn’t live up to my “happiness expectations.”
I am my own person. The Mister is his own person. But we walk this path called life with each other. And it is amazing!