At what age is a woman really at her best? This is a question that will arouse debate in all quarters. The real answer, of course, depends upon the woman. My experience has taught me that this year, and every year, can be a woman’s best if she will strive to understand her age and its possible rewards…When a woman blames her problems on her age she will rarely find a solution to them. Any age is an asset if one learns to regard it as such. ~John Robert Powers, Secrets of Poise, Personality, and Model Beauty
One of the things I love about Mr. Powers is that he gives it to us straight on. And, today, I needed him to “sit me down” and tell me that my problems are not about my age.
You see, and this is really hard for me to share, I used to be a beautiful woman but I don’t feel like one anymore. My forties were not easy on me on many levels and I’ve got the battle scars to show it. I know I lost a lot of readers when I started exploring mid-50s glamor and charm but the truth of the matter is that before I began the series, I felt like I was flailing about trying to regain what I had lost. This exploration is an extremely personal one for me. I want to feel beautiful again.
I tell myself that I’m just trying to age gracefully but I catch myself trying to replicate my younger days. And it simply isn’t working out very well.
Mr. Powers tells us,
We have become a nation of youth worshipers. The only ones who don’t agree wholeheartedly to the idea that the fledgling years are the best are the very young themselves. Teenagers wait impatiently for the future, believing that time in itself will somehow solve their problems. Yet older women all too frequently look back and imagine that their golden years are behind them. The youngsters tend to overlook the advantages of youth, while older women tend to overemphasize them…The best years of a woman’s life come when she attains a harmony between her body and her spirit.
I’ve often said that I wouldn’t want to return to my youth and all of the angst associated with it. I love the wisdom that has come with being “a certain age.” Now I need to embrace the wisdom of my body so that I can attain harmony between it and my spirit.
To fabulous Technicolor beauty at any age,