Whenever I write about charm, poise, or glamour, I receive some push-back that this is the 21st century and women shouldn’t have to worry about trying to be a perfect Stepford Wife anymore. I agree. Wholeheartedly, in fact. You see, I think there is a huge misunderstanding surrounding the desire to be charming, have poise, or be glamorous. The more I delve into the charm/poise/glamour books, the more I realize that many, many of the authoresses were actually quite radical. Many were teaching women how to obtain personal power within the constraints that were placed on them during the time period.
Over and over again, I read about how employing the strategies described in the books will enable the reader to be taken seriously, to make inroads in male dominated environments, and to become self-actualized so that she can make her own choices instead of choices being made for her. It’s about making sure one’s voice is heard and that the message being sent to others is accurate.
If you don’t think that this kind of work is pertinent in modern times, consider that political candidates and upwardly mobile businessmen spend a great deal of money polishing their image so that they can achieve their goals.
So, yes, while I enjoy sparkly things, this journey toward a glamorous mid-century lifestyle is really about laying claim to the amazing feminine power within me in a world that devalues anything but masculine power.