Wise Words of the Day: Oversharing

Be always discreet.  Keep your own counsel.  If you do not keep it to yourself, you cannot expect others to keep it for you.  “The mouth of a wise man is in his heart; the heart of a fool is in his mouth, what he knoweth or thinketh he uttereth.” ~ John Lubbock

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Budweiser advertisement published in the August 1956 issue of Family Circle magazine. Image courtesy of Cloth98 on Flickr.com

It may seem odd coming from someone with a personal blog to warn about “oversharing,” but I think there is a difference between sharing and being indiscreet when using social media.  And I’m not just talking about that phenomenon known as “sexting” (which is a long conversation all on its own…).

Just because you think it, doesn’t mean you have to tweet or post your thought via social media.  In fact, it would be wise to filter those thoughts through the filter of “does this tweet/post cause people to hold me in high esteem or does it dim their view of me?”  I think we’ve all shared horror stories about “friending”  that nice lady from church on Facebook only to discover that she only posts rants or snarky comments about other people and/or events.  The “updates” become wearisome and we quietly unfriend her so that her toxic comments don’t pollute our minds.

I have a Twitter account connected to my work at the university that is distinct from my personal account.  There have been many times a colleague has tweeted something that is way too much information about themselves (TMI). It becomes harder to work with them when I know they don’t have personal and/or professional filters.

Remember: Just because you think it, doesn’t mean you have to say, tweet, or post it.  Only say, tweet, or post things that will enable people to continue to hold you in high esteem.

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