In yesterday’s post, I talked about how American women seem to focus more on being liked than being respected. But, as I’ve reflected upon this more, I’ve also been thinking about how modern “relationships” are so transient. We stick around only as long as our “needs” are being met. And so, we run around expecting everyone else to meet our needs and become so self-absorbed that we forget that we are responsible for satisfying our own emotional needs within ourselves. We’re not going to find satisfaction somewhere “out there. “ It has to come from within. It is only then that we can be fully present with someone else.
This Coronet Film from the early 1950′s is about a young boy who is feeling lonely. His mother explains to him three rules to help him develop friendships. Even though this gentle film is geared toward young children, it is a good reminder for most adults, too! (Note: the opening and closing credits have been lost to time)
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I enjoyed this film very much, and it is a good reminder. This little family story was handed down to me: My eldest sister was growing up in the 1930s when our grandmother (1886-1955) visited. My sister was complaining about problems with a girl in her class. “Isn’t there anything nice about her?” our grandmother asked. “Well, she has nice teeth,” replied my sister. “Then tell her so,” was Grandma’s advice. My sister took the advice. and the problems vanished.
I think sometimes we forget that these simple rules need to be taught and supported.
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I finally had time to watch this, and it’s a very sweet film with a simple yet positive message. At first I felt very badly for poor little Joey at the beginning of the clip, but was practically cheering for him towards the end. Usually the Coronet films are outdated and laughable, but this one is still spot on all these years later. Thanks for sharing!